Were you forced to give Grandma a kiss even when you didn’t want to?
Children don’t learn to honor their own feelings when they are forced to give a hug or kiss even if they don’t feel like it. Maybe they are just not in the mood to be touched. Or maybe there is a yucky gut sensation they feel about a certain uncle. When we don’t respect what a wee one feels because we insist on teaching proper manners, OR we wish to satisfy the rules & regulations of the grown-ups in the house, we are setting this child up for not being able to distinguish his/her YES or NO as they mature. I was forced to perform around adults in ways that didn’t always mesh with my feelings. I’m still untangling the strings in my psyche from those actions that took place decades ago. Honor thy children – they know WAY more than you probably give them credit for.
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